One of the paradoxes of loving relationships is that when things are going well and we are feeling loved, we may suddenly find ourselves emotionally distancing our partners or reacting to them in unloving ways. Maybe you can relate to some of these examples:
1. You may be feeling a lot of love for your partner, and then, the next morning, you wake and are annoyed and resentful of him or her.
2. You are loving,patient and accepting, and then, the next day, you become demanding or dissatisfied.
3. You can't imagine not loving your partner and then, the next day, you have an argument and suddenly begin thinking about divorce.
4. Your partner does something loving for you, and you feel resentful for the times in the past when he or she ignored you.
5. You are attracted to your partner, and then suddenly you feel numb in his or her presence.
6. You are happy with your partner, and then suddenly feel insecure about the relationship or powerless to get what you need.
7. You feel confident and assured that your partner loves you, then suddenly you feel desperate and needy.
8. You are generous with your love, and then suddenly you become withholding, judgemental, critical, angry, or controlling.
9. You are attracted to your partner, and then when he or she makes a commitment you lose your attraction or you find others more attractive.
I share this good read because a lot relationships today have been falling apart...with this book one can learn so much...it is worth the price so go get a copy of this, MEN ARE FROM MARS by one of my fave writers...JOHN GRAY.
And accoding to him it is very common for two people who are madly in love one day to hate each other or fight the next day. These sudden shifts are confusing yet they are very common...and if we don't understand why they happen we may think and mistakenly conclude that our love has died. Fortunately there is an explanation...find that out...get a book now...am sure you won't regret buying it.
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